Do you get vertigo when you look at the array of e-courses, workbooks, and other products designed for people like US (artistic, wandering, ever-dreaming, renaissance souls) each new year?
It’s like a buffet of creative bursts and self-improvement journeys. Who do you want to be? What do you want to change? What is your wildest dream? My mouth waters at the questions, the colors, the beauty of products created by coaches and bloggers and leaders I love.
How do you choose? There’s cotton candy for your soul, so much sweeter and more colorful than chicken soup. There’s meat & potatoes for your soul, ice cream for your soul, and probably cheesecake, too. (Have you noticed that I adore food?)
I tend to go on trusted recommendations.
This year, I’m exuberantly recommending Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map.
My food analogy: The Desire Map is dark chocolate for the soul. And oh, my soul wants nothing more. It’s rich, it’s the perfect combination of bitter and sweet. It’s delicious. You want to savor it in tiny bites, but it sits there staring at you and you pick it up again and again because it is just that wonderful.
I’ve worked through (or half-finished) several products geared toward designing a healthy, creative, and prosperous 2013 … but I’m only writing a single book/product review, because this one blows the rest out of the water.
The Desire Map is changing my life. It’s laying a strong and steady foundation for the creation of miracles.
By moving through Danielle’s process of identifying your “core desired feelings,” you will find that you’re actually creating the most basic and necessary piece of your mansion of new year’s intentions, or goals, or dreams–call them what you will; The Desire Map is the creation of the blueprint. I’m learning that I need to understand how I want to feel at the manifestation of a dream before I can even begin to decide what to dream.
I’m coming to understand my rut in school this past fall, and why I stopped having that feeling of tingling excitement about my blog and the little business I’ve created around it. I forgot why I had begun loving those things in the first place–because of the feelings they generated in me.
Let me quote Danielle, briefly. (This comes from page 30 of The Desire Map.)
“When we make feeling good a priority, everything changes–our individual lives change, and social systems change. How we make and spend money changes. How we teach and learn changes. How we love changes … Heading toward your core desired feelings will revolutionize your life.”
Other stuff I love about The Desire Map?
The audio meditations and poems belong permanently in every iPod, everywhere, in their own playlists. The world would be a better place if everyone listened to this stuff every day.
The graphic-creating apps are fun to play with, even for a graphics-phobic writer like me.
And I love the electronic workbook being there, cause then I can do my desire mapping over & over again, whenever I feel it’s necessary.
Yeah, and you get a hard copy too. How I love print books.
So … let me tell you my five core desired feelings. I went through a few hours of looking things up in dictionaries and thesauri (isn’t that a funny plural?), as Danielle encourages you to do in the workbook-half of the book. So if you’re a word-lover, you will love the desire mapping process.
My Core Desired Feelings:
1. Ardent. I fell in love with this word after sifting through definitions and synonyms for “enthusiastic,” “excited,” “on fire,” “inspired,” and “passionate.” None of those words quite fit the kind of calm-yet-impassioned fervor I want to feel whenever I’m writing, studying, teaching, playing music, or creating.
(Ardent: “Having, or expressive of, intense emotion; fervent, fierce, burning, fiery, vehement, enthusiastic.” Oh, god, yes.)
2. Courageous. “Confident” showed up over and over in my lists, but “confident” felt too general. With Danielle as a poetic, no-nonsense guide to truth, I dug into words until I decided I liked courageous the best.
(Courageous: “Having the quality of mind or spirit that enables one to face difficulty, danger, or pain with firmness and without fear.” Let me repeat that last bit–with firmness and without fear. YES, yes, yes.)
3. Elegant. I found my way to this word by digging deeper into what I really want when I say I want to feel “prosperous,” “abundant,” or “luxurious,” as well as “graceful” or “beautiful.”
(Elegant: “Tastefully fine or luxurious; gracefully refined and dignified.” Yes, please.)
4. Tranquil. I liked this word so much better than “calm,” because I don’t necessarily want to be super calm and mellow all the time. But the definition of “tranquil” speaks to a deeper calm, one I can carry with me always, even if I’m not totally relaxed in every moment.
(Tranquil: “Having a command of emotions, often due to strong faith, that keeps one unagitated, even in the face of extreme strife or excitement.” Good, because I like extreme excitement now and again.)
5. Divine. I had so many words that I narrowed into this one: I wanted to feel spiritual, sacred, connected to the source, part of the dance, ecstatic, one with divinity … Divine.
(Divine: “Of, pertaining to, or proceeding from a God or Goddess; addressed to or appropriated from or devoted to divinity; godlike; befitting a deity; OR [more colloquially] extremely good, lovely.” I really want the first piece of this definition, but I’ll take extremely good & lovely with the rest).
So … seriously, creative soul: Go get your own Desire Map & use it to plan a most divine 2013.
Oh, and happy new year. See? The world didn’t end. It’s just changing. Changing so much, for the better, brighter, and more beautiful.